Tag: Community

We Can’t Go It Alone…

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There’s an old proverb that says, “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” In recovery, this proverb holds true – although if you travel alone, the only place you go fast is into a relapse. In our lives prior to getting sober, we likely spent a lot of time alone, whether by choice or because we’d driven people away. When we come to recovery at Jaywalker Lodge, we find a thriving community ready to welcome us in. We quickly learn that brotherhood and fellowship are a vital piece of the recovery tapestry. We can’t go through the 12-Steps alone. We can’t have a meeting alone – we’d just be talking to ourselves! We can’t fellowship alone. If it had just been Frodo by himself, they wouldn’t have called it the Fellowship of The Ring – it would’ve just been the lonely…

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Why Drug Decriminalization Might Help With Treatment and Recovery

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When it comes to substance use disorders, there tends to be a barrier of care for those sentenced for drug possession. Oregon became the first state to decriminalize all illegal drugs fully. Whether or not decriminalization can make the jobs of healthcare workers easier is hotly debated. Still, there is a chance that decriminalization might help society focus on rehabilitation rather than punishment for substance use. Here’s what we know: The Difference Between Legalization and Decriminalization One important thing to clarify in this article is the difference between legalizing substances and decriminalizing them. The difference is important because the legal language matters. If you aren’t in favor of complete drug legalization, you could still be for drug decriminalization. Drug decriminalization simply means that if a person is in possession of a substance, they won’t be charged with a criminal defense. Decriminalization is different from legalization, as in this case, the…

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Brotherly Love: The Community We Have Built

If you’ve recently been through our treatment center, you’ve met our alumni who’ve shared their stories and offered encouragement. Our alumni provide a powerful perspective when they tell our clients their unique recovery journey. Additionally, they set an example of what successful sobriety looks like. Through service, attending 12-Step meetings, providing guidance through sponsorship, and enjoying alumni dinners, alumni are a vital part of our community. Recently graduated clients might not know how to be a part of our community after leaving our program, but there are plenty of opportunities to contribute to the loving community we have built here at Jaywalker. The Importance of Brotherly Love Those in treatment and early recovery rely heavily on their support system. At Jaywalker, we care about the connections we make. Our community is built on the idea of loving each other as brothers would. We give each other a shoulder to lean…

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Why Does Jaywalker Allow Our Clients to Interact With the Community?

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One stereotype of recovery centers is that they are places where people hide to get better. People view recovery as a time where a person with addiction sequesters themself from society for treatment. The fear is that interacting with “regular people” will only tempt the person with addiction. However, the truth is that isolation from the community only encourages shame and worsens recovery. People who are recovering from addiction benefit more from human interaction than solitude. Here’s why community is important to our program and why we believe that not only is community integration safe, but it’s also a lifesaver. Shame Only Becomes Isolation Many know of the negative stigmas attached to addiction. These negative stereotypes and opinions tend to make others live in denial about their addiction. Those who think they might have an addiction hide it because they’re afraid of being judged. Being afraid to share or talk…

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Men’s Issues: I Don’t Want To Lose My Friends

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It may or may not be surprising to hear that one of the most common concerns for those of us who are new to recovery is the potential loss of friends. We may fear that our friends will abandon us once we adopt the recovery lifestyle or, on the flip side, that we will have to leave certain friends behind to ensure our own recovery. Either way you slice it, friendships tend to cause a lot of worry in early recovery. Friendships are normally a happy part of life, so it seems strange that such a good thing could make us hesitant about our own recovery. True friendships should be able to endure whatever lifestyle changes the people involved make, especially when it means life or death for one of them. But sadly, this is not always the case. Hence, potentially losing friendships becomes an issue of real concern for…

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How Can I Change Everything?


When we are new in recovery, we often hear the silly slogan “The only thing you have to change is everything.” It’s said in jest, but it’s also true to a large degree. For those of us who are new to recovery, this can seem like a tall order. Never mind the fact that we’re new in recovery and so much is already changing, but we have to change everything? There’s a lot of helpful information that we can learn about this phrase and what the intense goal of changing “everything” really means.The Goal: Everything First, we need to examine this goal closely. Changing everything is a lot! Is this something we genuinely want for ourselves, something we feel pressure to do, or was it something somebody told us? We need to look at the source of this goal and do some serious contemplating. The reason that the recovery community tells…

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Closeness in This Time of Distance


It’s far too easy to feel totally isolated and disconnected these days. Many of us have spent a long time separated from our loved ones, families, friends, and recovery community. We’ve been apart for a long time — and whether we’re in recovery or not, human beings are not meant to live in isolation. We are social creatures. We need closeness and togetherness. The society of our fellow man is a vital, necessary, and beautiful part of life. The list of benefits gleaned from spending time with other people and the incredible gifts that come from endeavoring to help those people is simply immense. It’s practically the key to a full and happy life, especially for those of us in recovery. There have been some significant obstacles to experiencing closeness and community lately. Let’s take a look at some ways that we can still be close to our people and…

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The Society of Our Fellows

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Isolation and “Lone Wolf syndrome” are extremely common modes of operation for alcoholics and addicts. The reason why going solo is so popular among people like us is complicated. It’s partly because we are defiant, independent people, and partly because we are often very emotionally sensitive people. We like to do our own thing and we get frustrated when something stands in our way, so we go it alone. We also like to try and feel good all the time, and many of our actions, habits, and behaviors can cause harm to those around us. We don’t like hurting people or making them sad, so we find it easier to live alone as much as possible. The problem is that going it alone does harm in its own way, too. We can’t avoid our way into or out of relationships. No matter how independent, isolated, or alone we make ourselves,…

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The Value of Our Communities


Almost every human alive is part of a community. We can define community in multiple ways. The most common meaning is “a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common. Community can also mean “a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals.” These two definitions often appear together. Whether it’s our roommates or immediate family, we have our own small community, but it scales up from there — all the way up. We have our work community, our city, our state, our country, and finally, our planet. Community stretches from the smallest to the largest scales in our lives. Whether or not we like to think we’re a lone wolf, pretty much everyone is part of a community. No man is an island, no matter how much we may think differently. Even if you never…

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The Upside of Responsibility

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Here at Jaywalker Lodge, we do everything with purpose. There are no arbitrary or frivolous decisions made here, ever. Before you get worried that we’re too serious or stern, please take a closer look. We’re serious about helping men find lasting recovery, and we’re serious about the choices we make and the things we do. But we are not a glum lot — recovery is seriously a blessing and we couldn’t be happier or more excited about it. We make sure to have plenty of fun every single day, but we work as hard as we play. We spend time hanging out together, laughing, enjoying meals, going to meetings, and being of service to the community. If you don’t think these things are a total blast, try joining us and see for yourself. Ever been skiing? Hiking or rafting? We’re all about adventures in the great outdoors. That’s part of…

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